“I’ll take snow over memories. Living in the past never helped anyone.”
Say’s Tamara in her recent blog post recounting a conversation we had a number of years ago when I was helping her to train her brain so that she could overcome her life-long depression.
“Almost two years ago, before I understood, Nick and I had a conversation about clothing. I was getting rid of things, and as I went through my dresser drawers, I said, “Sometimes, a shirt is just a shirt.”
“No,” he said. “A shirt is not just a shirt.”
I have come back to that moment many times since then. I understand now, and I don’t know if a shirt will ever be just a shirt to me again. I have a whole new wardrobe now. The old shirts are gone. Good riddance.
Almost everything else is gone too. House. Furniture. Dishes. Paintings. Photos. Friends.
Nearly everyone she used to know has commented on how profoundly different she is as a human being now — better, happier, nicer, calmer — STRONGER.
That’s not an accident! She had to work her ass off for it — just like anything.
One of the key things you have to accept (especially as a person prone to depression) is that you CANNOT “live” in your past. It is GONE, forever. Done. You have NOW. And your future depends upon what you DO right now.
She’s very good at this now. Maybe you’re still working at it. You’ll get there. But first you have to stop living in your past — that’s not living, that’s being dead — and start LIVING, acting, doing, NOW.
Now go lift something heavy (literally, do it),